All men have had to fight for their rights and womb-carrying humans are fighting for very unique ones. In some cultures more than others the fight is still very challenging. Furthermore, many of us are our own worst enemy in this fight. With low self esteem in tow, women trample on their own rights by declining them, not demanding them, and not fighting for them. Not accidentally, the womb resides in the second chakra, the chakra of intuition and self-esteem. When a woman’s self-esteem and intuition come from a wounded or abandoned womb, it can seem as though the life one has come to live is a result of external forces. Rather than being in command of one’s own existence in a pro-active and empowering fashion, feeling as if things “just happen” that are out of our control becomes the modus operandi.
When any of the chakras are out of balance, issues regarding self-respect, fear of losing control, financial loss, ability to survive and thrive, and poorly balanced relationships will be present. Eating issues such as anorexia and bulimia, along with buried emotions and depression are associated with an unbalanced second chakra and an unbalanced womb. Unless you heal yourself you cannot heal the world around you or help another sister, mother, or daughter in need.
It is common knowledge that if the people who fight for other people's rights do not fully believe in their own they cannot make a difference. How can a woman stand up for her rights to something, let’s say choice, if deep inside she doesn’t feel like she deserves any basic rights for herself?
Aside from the right to choice, there are some more personal, subtle rights that are constantly challenged by our social, familial, cultural and even religious environment. These are the right to speak and hear the truth, the right to love and be loved, the right to take action, and the right to know, just to name a few. For example, if we are not taught to question authority as children, we might believe we cannot stand up for our rights to go against societal norms. This misguided belief can result in feeling compelled to consent to unnecessary medical interventions. Similarly, if we walk around with the belief that we are unlovable, we may not stand up for our right to be in loving relationships, overlooking abusive patterns. If the right to voice our feelings of anger and frustration, or even joy and laughter are denied in our childhood we might become incapable to stand up for ourselves or even believe we are deserving of any rights at all.
When a woman identifies her patterns and learns how to let go of unwanted beliefs she is on her way to obtaining the life she deserves and desires. She is creating and cradling within her womb future generations of empowered human beings. Most of us living in the western world know this and understand the need women have to stand for their basic rights, but only a few of us have been given the tools to actually stand up for ourselves.
Much work needs to be done to re-write our history so that our reactions and actions stem from a positive and empowering place. Unless we do the actual work, just knowing this intellectually will not help. We need to begin a conversation with ourselves as we are the person best equipped to heal what needs healing, and exalt and bring into life our dreams, and desires.
Giuditta Tornetta is a bestselling author (Painless Childbirth), doula, clinical hypnotherapist, CEO and founder of JoyInBirthing.com and the JoyInBirthingFoundation.org (a volunteer doula organization.) Giuditta has authored and has been interviewed in hundreds of magazines articles worldwide She teaches women around the world how to activate their womb power and manifest the life they desire.